Marriage Is A Mess, Marriage Is Not Easy!

thoughts May 01, 2019
My marriage is a mess sometimes and has not been easy. We have struggled with tempers, finances, deaths, handicaps, children, in-laws and out-laws. Working together day in and day out.
Our love for each other is not always respectful.
We say things that we both regret.
We try not to go to bed mad, but sometimes fail to do so. ( I am up all night, while he sleeps)
We have not always set a good example for people. Especially our children and I regret that.
We are real and raw about our relationship. We both could have quit so many times.

Marriage is a mess!

We went into this with the thought that those vows. You know the ones that we said in front of God. For sickness and health, better or worse, richer or poorer. You remember those.
Well they meant the world to us. They and God were the foundation of our marriage. Marriage is a mess though and It gets messy!
We never said well let's try this and see if it works. We can always get a divorce. No we said there is no easy way out. We tried to never use that word, although it may have, out of frustration, been screamed. (Not proud of that either.)
There was a few times that we did ask each other if we wanted to keep going. We slept on it a few times. (He slept I worried.)
All in all though we always work it out.
I like to tell people that everything is not roses and there is fighting! People like to tell you that no one should fight or disagree. You should see things eye to eye. Well I am here to tell you marriage is a mess.
For couples so eager to call it quits. Throw in the towel on your relationship because everything isn't 'perfect'. It got messy. Here’s some food for thought. We are not perfect and marriage is messy, but fun. ( I am not talking about those that have infidelity, abuse or anything like that. That is for another day.) I am talking about the ones that aren't willing to work because it is to hard. They have the faulty concept that it is all glamour and no mess. 

HE SLEPT I worried!

Lifelong commitment is not what most people think it is. It's not waking up every morning to make breakfast and eat together. It's not cuddling in bed until both of you fall asleep. It's not a clean home filled with laughter and joy.
It's someone who steals all the covers, and snores, it's slammed doors and a few harsh words at times.
It's disagreeing and giving each other the silent treatment. Until your hearts heal, and then there might be forgiveness. (Depends on his attitude. LOL) 
It's coming home to the same person every day that you know loves and cares about you in spite of who you are.
It's laughing about the one time you accidentally did something stupid.
It's about dirty laundry and unmade beds.
It's about helping each other with the hard work of life and all the messy stuff.
It's about swallowing the nagging words instead of saying them out loud.
It's about sitting down at a late hour together to the easiest meal you can make or the most burnt. Because you both had a crazy day.
It's when you have an emotional breakdown and your love lays down with you and holds you. They tell you everything is going to be okay. You believe them, because they are there with you and they understand.
It's about still loving someone even though sometimes they make you absolutely insane.
Loving someone isn't always easy, sometimes it's hard. But it is amazing and comforting and one of the best things you will ever experience. Take a look at this article about the five love languages. Sometimes figuring this out is a big help!
If you are lucky enough to have a wonderful partner in your life. Then thank God for giving them to you. Spend your life together working on it. I like to say my marriage is a work in progress. Marriage is a mess, but it is fun and a road that is well worth taking.
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